Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Day 2 - Love is kind

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has als forgiven you. -Ephesians 4:32

From the book:

"Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive one. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing."

Kindness has 4 basic components:

Gentleness- being careful how you treat you spouse. Tender, sensitive.

Helpfulness- Being kind means you meet the needs of the moments. If it's laundry, you wash. If a friend needs a listening ear, you listen, etc.

Willingness- Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Rather than complaining or making excuses, you compromise and accommodate. Cooperate, stay flexible.

Initiative- Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. The kind spouse is the first to smile, greet, smooch, forgive...

"Love in it's truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness"

Day 2's dare

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.


Dana said...

I TOTALLY embraced this one even before I saw the post. Jason was supposed to watch Derek so I could go to a Girl's Night event at Color Me Mine. At the last minute a friend offered him Stars tickets. I let him go and took Derek with me. If that isn't an act of kindness I don't know what is. :-)

Anonymous said...

Ditto on what Dana said!

I started buying liquid baby formula so my hunney doesn't have to mix the powder to make bottles.

Isn't that fabulous, my hunney makes the bottles.

The Bennights said...

See how all the positive things come out when you step back and examine....letting the negative go??? This is great stuff! Thanks for sharing!